I was listening to Dan Clark on www.ilearningglobal/ronf talk about change.
The essence of this video is that there are two types of change. The first is about changing something to removing the pain. The second is about moving toward our dream (my words not his) and using pain as a motivator to achieve your goal.
He states: Reason leads to conclusions, emotions leads to action.
He uses a great example about how our beliefs affect our attitude. If you live in Utah and it snows, you ski. If you live in the south and it snows, you wreck your car. If you live in the north and it snows, you ice fish.
Is the snow bad (or wrong or unsafe or fun or enjoyable) or is it our beliefs about the snow that causes us problems or creates excitement. The fact is, it is snowing. It is our belief about snow that causes us gas, indigestion and that burning sensation.
Clark goes on to say that some things are true even if you do not belief them. Some things are not true even if we belief it to be true.
Not only do we need to ask the right question but we must interpret the results correctly. If we ask the wrong question we will always get the wrong answer because the facts always support the question we ask. If we ask the wrong question and get the right facts, we are bound to create the wrong opinion or belief.
Change is not from the outside in. This is reactive change – victim mentality (i.e., it is raining therefore it must be a bad day.) This attitude creates pressure and stress.
Changes must come from the inside out and when it comes from the inside out is proactive change. This type of change creates power. I would add that when change comes from the inside out, it comes from a place of power. The power comes from ownership, the willing to say things can be different and I can change them.
The past does not makes us who we are today. It allows us to choose what we want to become.
Change is about:
1. Moving to who we want to be
2. Stretching emotionally and intellectually
3. Using emotions to create passion, knowledge to create options and creativity to implement change in your life
4. Taking action (I added this)
To Your Continued Success
Ron Finklestein
Ron@akris.net
330-990-0788
www.rpfgroupinc.com
2 users commented in " Reason Leads to Conclusions – Emotions Leads to Action "
Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackI don’t disagree. I prefer the emphasis that ‘Influencer – The Power to Change Anything’ places on this process however. First determine the desired outcome and then the critical behaviors that need to change. The process needs to be envisioned and then people need to be engaged. I hope I have that right, because my copy of the book is buried somewhere under a stack of other books and papers.
HRCohen,
Good post. Let me explain a bit more. Everything is about behavior. Everyhting I teachis about implementing the right behaviors for you to achieve your goals. You are right about determining the desired outcome… That is what I call understanding your intelligent self interest.
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